Comparison. The thief of joy. The thing that keeps us up at night wondering: “if I were just a little bit better, more like her, skinnier, more outgoing, not crazy…” The list goes on and on and on. Comparison can make our minds race and at the same time make our lives halt. When we are living our lives comparing ourselves to others, are we really living our lives? Are we living out the purpose the Lord has for each and every one of us? I don’t think so.
I’ve been battling comparison this semester. We have gone to war many times in the confines of my mind. Comparison throws its best punches with the lies of the enemy. I give up because those punches hurt and knock me down. Before I know it, I’m losing the battle and it’s barely even started. All it takes sometimes is one lie to flutter through my brain.
I’m currently reading The Broken Way by Ann Voskamp and let me be brutally honest here: this book will wreck your life. It will make you see yourself in a new light and challenge you to grow and push you more towards Christ in ways you didn’t even think were possible. Each chapter is challenging, thought-provoking, and truth-telling. I find myself stopping at the end of almost every page to ponder Voskamp’s words. I just finished reading a chapter titled: Breaking the Lies in Your Head. How fitting for this season of life I feel stuck in.
She writes: “If we all listen long enough to the voices about who we should be, we grow deaf to the beauty of who we are.” It seems to me that we are all too quick to forget who we are. We can hear a sermon about how great God is and how He has adopted us and made us heirs with Christ – but then forget that truth the second we walk out of the doors of the church. This isn’t how it is supposed to be.
We are His beloved.
Beloved is one of my favorite words. I heard once: “Your name at the end of the day is Beloved.” You can’t change the name the Lord has given you and you can’t change how He sees you. He views you as His Son. In His eyes, you are made new and made whole again. He gives more grace every single day. His love never runs out. It is constant, just like Jesus. Jesus loves me the same yesterday, today, and forever. Because He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Why should our identity change when He does not? You are enough because He is always enough.
We don’t have to struggle against the enemy if we stand firm on who God says we are.
Jesus has defeated Satan forever. Why do we act like that’s not true? With Christ living in you, you have His power to defeat the enemy every single day. And sometimes you do have to get up and fight every single day against the lies by wearing the beautiful belt of truth. Your worth in this life is not determined by what the world says, what your feelings say, or what comparison says. Your worth is determined by Christ who died for you and defeated the grave. Who said: “It is finished.”
Believe the truth that God says about you. Read Ephesians 1 everyday if you have to. It was true to the church of Ephesus and it’s true for you, too. Stop comparing your life to those around you and bask in the beauty of your own unique life the Lord has given you. Live your life unashamed of who Christ says you are.
You are chosen. redeemed. loved. forgiven. wanted. adopted. safe. cherished. lavished with grace.
You are His beloved.